ABOUT ROB
Meet Rob, who transformed his own intimate life after years of intense frustration and two decades of
immersive study with world-renowned teachers and underground mystics.
My Journey
The challenges I faced sparked a journey that took me way beyond typical approaches to just getting better at sex.
What started as a goal to fix sexual performance issues and painful relationship challenges turned into an exploration of consciousness and human potential.
Like most people, my sexual life started off as innocence and intrigue that quickly got confusing, isolating, and disappointing.
I stumbled my way through early relationships, porn habits, performance anxiety, and embarrassing attempts. There were some moments of glory, but there were many long, sad stretches of feeling stuck and pretty helpless to change.
My interest in sexuality grew into spending over a decade obsessively trying to figure out how to have the experiences I wanted — whatever would resolve the nagging feeling of dissatisfaction and not being fully capable.
That decade of obsession included stacks upon stack of books on sex and tantra, more trainings, retreats and workshops than I can count, and venturing into more obscure territories, like ancient ritualize tantric practices and some freaky-ass kink dungeons.
Over the past 20 years I’ve invested over 10,000 hours exploring sex, embodiment, and relational practices with the level of focus most people reserve for their career.
I discovered that the real to access what we all want wasn’t just about physical techniques. It was removing the blocks to what’s already there — our innate embodied sexual intelligence. That, and understanding key insights from the incredible lineages of practice that have come before us.
I’ve been fortunate to have had amazing teachers, mentors, and lovers. I’ve studied and practiced with lineages and systems most people have never heard of — and I’ve tested it all in the only place that matters.
Along the way, I’ve learned to do things most people don’t even have language for. And now I share this with men and women to help them create extraordinary sex lives—-sex lives that ultimately make their whole lives more successful, abundant, and soul-aligned.
If someone had shown me this stuff when I was just setting out, it would’ve saved me the time (and half the money) of getting a medical degree.
What Is Men Of Substance™
Men of Substance™ exists because most people are disconnected from their sexual potential.
But this work is about far more than just sex—it’s about being whole, in integrity, and aligned with who we are and what matters most.
I see the path of sexual mastery as a vehicle for decoding and realizing your potential—spiritually, creatively, and practically.
I've seen it again and again with men and women from many backgrounds...more success, abundance, and generally having a better time in all areas of your life is a natural by-product of discovering how to have an amazing sexual life possible.
Beyond Sexuality
While sex is a core focus of the work, the full landscape is much wider.
Embodiment & Consciousness
How consciousness is at the root of everything, and how we use our bodies determines our capacity for presence, connection, good feelings, authenticity, and creativity across all areas of life.
Relationship &Intimacy
How to turn chemistry and desire into thriving, harmonious relationships—through shared leadership, honesty, collaboration, and approaches that keep love and passion growing.
Emergent Field Work
How to explore the emergent qualities of group fields and the incredible, deeply meaningful experiences that become possible in these shared spaces.
Human Development
How our nervous systems, beliefs, and identity organize around early experiences and how to effectively shift patterns and limitations so that we can live truly empowered lives.
What Drives Me
I’m an experimenter, artist, and improviser at heart. I have a passion for scientific precision, trickster’s irreverence, and listening to what often goes unseen. Those who know me best describe me as unusually earnest, unpredictable, and here for a good time. I'm also just a regular guy laughing and stumbling his way through life.
“And there is a practice which I follow every night before going to sleep. It is very simple, but it has helped me immensely, and it can help anyone who uses it. It involves only three questions: Have I lived? Have I loved? Have I laughed?
Have I lived? Have I made the best use of the time provided me during that day to grow, to learn, to develop?
Have I loved? Have I reached out to everyone I met and made them aware of the love in my heart and eased their burdens of self-mistrust and self-doubt?
Have I laughed? Have I seen the humorous side of even the most painful incident?
If the answer to any one of these questions is no, then it is a matter for remorse. One more day has passed and I am another day closer to my death…”
I love helping people answer 'yes' to these questions more consistently. I am my #1 case study.